3 HABITS FOR A SUCCESSFUL DATE AFTER MATCHING ON AN APP
Dating apps can make you feel stuck in a never-ending loop: where you keep swiping and messaging again, and again, and again. How can you break that loop and find a fulfilling relationship?
Dr. Matos shares core skills men lack that are keeping them in the never-ending dating app loop and 3 scripts for healthy communication habits that can be used when getting to know someone for the first time, in a long-term relationship, and to help you have passionate sex with your partner for many years to come.
Dr. Greg Matos is a board-certified couple and family psychologist in Los Angeles, California. He is the founder of the charity abetterloveproject that helps people start healthier relationships from the beginning. Dr. Greg is a former Marine Corps Sergeant and recipient of the Bronze Star with Combat Valor.
3 scripts for healthy communication habits:
1. How to create a deep bond with your partner:
Ask your partner “what was the most stressful part of your day today?”
Listen and follow-up with a clarifying question “tell me more about (that part)”
Sharing what you think you understood from listening
Validate their experience by saying “that makes sense to me”
2. How to peek into your partner's inner world:
Asking: “what are you most grateful for today,” and: “what are you looking forward to tomorrow?”
Being curious about their inner world, validating their experiences, and being able to provide support
3. How to start a challenging conversation:
“I feel _____ about _____, I need/want/prefer _____”
When you start a conversation with “I feel,” you’re firing up your partner’s mirror neurons
“about” allows you to share a specific event, action, or experience
“I need/want/prefer” allows you to communicate what your needs are that your partner can fulfill
Bonus points! Here's Dr. Matos' #1 dating app tip: put time and effort into nailing the first impression when you match or like someone's profile. With an app like Hinge, you can ❤️ a prompt and add a comment.
This information is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of a healthcare professional with any questions you may have regarding treatment, medications/supplements, or any medical diagnoses. This information is intended for educational purposes only and is in no way to substitute the advice of a licensed healthcare professional.
