Dating apps can make you feel stuck in a never-ending loop: where you keep swiping and messaging again, and again, and again. How can you break that loop and find a fulfilling relationship?

Dr. Matos shares core skills men lack that are keeping them in the never-ending dating app loop and 3 scripts for healthy communication habits that can be used when getting to know someone for the first time, in a long-term relationship, and to help you have passionate sex with your partner for many years to come.

Dr. Greg Matos is a board-certified couple and family psychologist in Los Angeles, California. He is the founder of the charity abetterloveproject that helps people start healthier relationships from the beginning. Dr. Greg is a former Marine Corps Sergeant and recipient of the Bronze Star with Combat Valor.

3 scripts for healthy communication habits:

1. How to create a deep bond with your partner:

Ask your partner “what was the most stressful part of your day today?”

• Listen and follow-up with a clarifying question “tell me more about (that part)”

• Sharing what you think you understood from listening

• Validate their experience by saying “that makes sense to me”

2. How to peek into your partner's inner world:

Asking: “what are you most grateful for today,” and: “what are you looking forward to tomorrow?”

• Being curious about their inner world, validating their experiences, and being able to provide support

3. How to start a challenging conversation:

“I feel _____ about _____, I need/want/prefer _____”

• When you start a conversation with “I feel,” you’re firing up your partner’s mirror neurons

• “about” allows you to share a specific event, action, or experience

• “I need/want/prefer” allows you to communicate what your needs are that your partner can fulfill
  
  

Bonus points! Here's Dr. Matos' #1 dating app tip: put time and effort into nailing the first impression when you match or like someone's profile. With an app like Hinge, you can ❤️ a prompt and add a comment.

This information is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of a healthcare professional with any questions you may have regarding treatment, medications/supplements, or any medical diagnoses. This information is intended for educational purposes only and is in no way to substitute the advice of a licensed healthcare professional.